Be Incredible in Bed

Step 4: The Secrets of Oral Pleasure

Starting Out

In the first steps of this workshop, we moved from the sensuous stage of arousal to pleasing your man with your hands. But if there is one thing that men clamor for more and more of, it's oral stimulation. And this week you are going to learn three easy techniques that will create pleasure for your partner -- and make you feel even more confident in bed.


Oral delight comes in two distinct ways. The first is the obvious: kissing. I wish there were a school, other than my own coaching, to teach men and women how to be good kissers, because this is the initiation of the sexual process. Kissing brings couples close, allowing direct eye contact and shared breathing -- a natural connectivity that's a must for foreplay. However, my female clients always report that kissing is the one thing that is missing in their foreplay. Start there to light his fire and yours. If your man pushes away at intimate kissing, that may be a signal that he is ambivalent about closeness or feels inadequate at it. Assure him that together you can share what you like and don't like in the kissing department, especially if you have some exercises to try or a great video to watch as your teaching guide. For example, you might try licking the rim of your man's mouth or darting your tongue inside to touch his tongue. Both of these moves can provoke ecstasy. My favorite video featuring the best kissing demonstrations is still Kama Sutra: Ancient Secrets of Love. Experiment, be brave, and open up for some smooching.

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