Has this ever happened to you? You hear of a great new hairstylist you can’t wait to try, but she happens to work in the same salon as your present stylist. You want to avoid hurt feelings, but you don’t want to feel guilty about trying something new. Just what is proper beauty etiquette in this situation? Here are some suggestions for handling things before they get hairy.
- Honesty is the best policy. Be honest. Feelings are less likely to get hurt if you don’t attempt to hide things or feel the need to cover up. That said, however, don’t make a big deal of the situation. A professional will understand if you want to seek another opinion.
- Be appreciative. Write your stylist a thank-you note expressing your appreciation for his talent and services. Explain how much you enjoy being a client of the salon and that your decision does not reflect dissatisfaction or disappointment.
- You’re not a criminal. Your action involves issues of loyalty, not serious wrongdoing. This is, not surprisingly, a fairly common occurrence in the beauty biz. Be sensitive, but you shouldn’t feel the need to go behind someone’s back to accommodate your desire to seek different advice.
- Don’t feel sheepish. When you bump into your former stylist, which is bound to happen, don’t act guilty or play dumb. This just overexaggerates the situation and makes everyone feel unnecessarily awkward.
- Remember, this isn’t personal. No matter how uncomfortable you feel, just keep in mind that your decision to try something new has nothing to do with your current stylist and everything to do with wanting to make a change. After all, it’s your hair!
- Variety is the spice of hair. Sometimes we continue old patterns out of habit. Change can be refreshing, especially if we haven’t considered it recently. Do you always buy the same color shoes? Always shop in the same clothing store? Of course not. Therefore you shouldn’t feel you have no choice in how you wear your hair and who styles it.
- If all else fails. If you truly feel your stylist can’t face seeing you as the client of a colleague, then schedule an appointment on the day your regular stylist is out of the salon. Or ask for a time slot you know is already taken so you have an excuse to book an appointment with someone new.