Bella Swan Has Ruined Dating for Our Daughters

Confession: I’m a huge Twilight fan. The truth is, though I’m a mom, I’m as wooed and wowed by Edward and Jacob as the average tween. The one difference? Unlike most giddy tween girls, I actually know that they don’t exist. And when I say "they," I’m not talking about vampires and werewolves. I’m talking about the existence of guys like Edward and Jacob -- guys who are constantly laying down their lives for you and who unselfishly have your best interests at heart.

The expectations that our girls must now have for Mr. Right are so incredibly unrealistic. Most girls won't end up in a love triangle between two stunning hunks with 8-pack abs and a penchant for romantic speeches. No, they’ll encounter the guys we all grew up with; ones that are often insensitive, inexpressive and would rethink your relationship after a wink from a hot cheerleader with double Ds. The awkward, quiet, “out of step” -- as Bella put it -- girls are most likely not going to be swept off their feet by a gorgeous sensitive guy who sees through the façade to the exciting person beneath. It rarely happens that way, and waiting for that fairytale could keep a wallflower warming the seats at school dances for years to come.

I’d also like to point out how unhealthy a real-life version of Bella and Edward's relationship would be. If you take the vampire out of Edward, you’re simply left with a very hot stalker -- someone who would initially seem attractive and unattainable and then warrant the need for a restraining order. Certainly, if my daughter’s boyfriend snuck in every night, pulled wires on her car to keep her from going places and seemed to follow her every move, my husband and I would be contacting the local authorities.  So, good luck to our girls in trying to find the guy of their dreams, when guys like that are about as rare as vampires and werewolves.

Do you want a relationship like Edward and Bella's?

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