"The best advice I received I was given to me by my sister. I was a week away from giving birth and she told me: 'Always put your marriage first, because long after your child has left the house, you still have a marriage.' And, I truly believe this and my husband and I live it every day. My son (who is now two) will never be aware that our marriage comes first, but I fell he'll be a better person because of it. Too many children are under the assumption that relationships are disposable."
"I love to search books for information on raising children. I subscribe to magazines, etc. With my first child I was always confused about all the things I read. My mom said to just trust my instincts, to use common sense and I'd do fine. There is definitely some truth to that. I find that even though I do read different responses to a current problem sometimes, if I listen my heart it is already telling me which way I want to go. For example, when my son was an infant, the doctor told me he was a trained night crier, and gave me some info on it. My mom also told me I was doing him a great disservice by not teaching him to be able to fall asleep on his own. I went to the library and checked out probably 10 books and read the parts pertaining to this in each book. Nine of the 10 books at that time said a child should be placed in bed awake and allowed to cry a bit until it learns to put itself to sleep. I found one book that said differently, and that was the book I identified with. Like I said, my heart was already leading me in that direction, but I wasn't listening until I went the long way there. So, even though my philosophy and hers aren't quite the same, she did tell me to use my own judgment and trust my own mothering instincts."