Better Sex, Easy as 1-2-3: 20 Tips from Dr. Ruth

9. Try to guess each other's thoughts.

Can you actually read your lover's mind? Probably not, but why not give it a try? Maybe you'll discover that you really are on the same wavelength.

10. Pretend that this is the last time you're going to see each other for quite some time.

We've all seen those heart-wrenching pictures of soldiers saying goodbye to their wives as they go off to active duty. The next time you're with your partner, hold him or her in your arms and put yourselves in those shoes, or Army boots as it were. The emotions you'll feel will, I believe, give you a new appreciation for each other.

11. Make a list of favorites.

Everybody has favorites -- favorite colors, flowers, food, etc. Do you know your partner's list of favorite bedroom activities? Take a piece of paper and make two columns. On one, write down what you like best, and on the other, write what you think he likes best. Then switch and read each other's lists aloud.

12. Make even household chores sexy.

If doing the laundry is a chore you don't like, here's a way to make it more interesting: Whoever takes on this duty has the right to request a striptease from his or her partner en route to the washing machine.

13. Keep time.

How long does your partner like to have a particular body part licked, caressed, nibbled or otherwise tended to? Find out by using a stopwatch. The experiment should be fun the first time, plus just think of how handy that information will be in the future.

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