Every day this week, I’ll be posting a different big "parenting mistake", so make sure to check back tomorrow!
MISTAKE #4. Not Using the Rule of 21
Correct: Faithfully stick to changing one behavior at least three weeks to reap results.
A big parenting mistake is not sticking to a behavior plan long enough. The result: No behavior change. Changing behavior is a gradual process requiring commitment and repetition. In fact, learning a new habit takes around 21 days of consistent work. By faithfully using the "Rule of 21" you're more likely to get the desired behavior result. Hint: Watch out for a "backslide effect" Just before behavior changes it sometimes worsens. The child is testing so don't give in!
- Target 1 behavior. You won't be so overwhelmed and are more likely get lasting change.
- Relay plan to at least one caregiver. You'll get faster results being on the same page.
- Track efforts in a calendar. You'll “see” a gradual change that will keep you committed.
- Commit to 21 days. Consistently stick to your plan for 21 days or however long it takes!
Michele Borba's 5 Biggest Parenting Mistakes:
- Failing to Teach “Replacer” Behaviors
- Not Using the Right Words the Right Way
- Setting Unrealistic Expectations
- Not Using the Rule of 21
- Not Letting Kids Experience Failure
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