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Bill and Giuliana Rancic caused a commotion when they revealed to Us Weekly that yes, they put their marriage before baby. But the new parents, who've weathered infertility and cancer in their first few years of marriage, believe the best thing they can do for son Duke is to keep their marriage strong. Here's how they do it -- and you can, too.
Reinvent date night. "You always hear people preach that you should have date nights," says Giuliana. "Then Friday comes and it's the last thing you want to do after you've been working all day and then taking care of the kids at night. Our idea of a date night is -- once the baby is asleep -- getting carry-out or making food at home. Then we go to bed early and watch TV and cuddle. Date night isn't some elaborate fancy evening where you have to spend a lot of money -- it's really about the conversation, connecting and the time you spend together."
Don't think of marriage as work. Any meaningful relationship requires time and patience, but you don't need to think of that as a bad thing. "So many people say 'marriage is work,'" says Bill. "Work is such a negative term -- it's a four-letter word! We always say it's about effort."
Remember: It's the little things. "Every morning I get the little guy out of bed and bring him into bed with us and then I'll get Giuliana coffee," says Bill. "It's something my dad did for my mom." Says Giuliana: "There's a secret thing with my milk that makes the coffee tastes amazing. I can't make it as well as Bill can. But he does this little secret thing, and it's so sweet. It speaks volumes, and it's a cup of coffee."
Check in with each other. "Once a week, we just look at the other one and go, 'hey, honey, just checking in," says Giuliana. "You're being pro-active rather than reactive. I think in a lot of marriages, they just react when problems arise, instead of preventing the problem from ever rearing its head in the first place." Adds Bill: "It's a forum not just to air the things that are bothering you, but it's also a forum to say, 'hey, I really liked it when you made that coffee the other morning.' It reinforces the good in the marriage, not just honing in on all the bad things."