Sex and Birth Order: How Your Birth Order Affects Your Bedroom Behavior

How does birth order influence your sex life? Just select your birth order from the list below (excerpted from The Birth Order Connection) and find out about your sexual profile:

First-Borns or Only Children

Predictable in bed: You can set your watch to what they do next.

Dr. Leman's advice: "The skill that makes you good at work is the same basic skill that works against you in your marriage -- control mongering and perfectionism erode relationships rather than build them."


Middles remain somewhat of a mystery, even in bed. They frequently have the toughest time feeling needed and often think of themselves as the least special, which leads to an interesting contradiction: being aggressive and competitive while also avoiding conflict.

Dr. Leman 's advice: "If your middle-child spouse is sexually frustrated, she may not tell you about it. If he wants to try something new, you may never hear him mention it, unless you take the time to draw it out. If you are married to a middle, please take the time to do a 'sexual inventory.' Middles will rarely tell you what they really want unless you pry it out of them."

Last Borns

The sexual aspect of marriage is of the utmost appeal to the last born. Stereotypically, last-borns like to laugh in bed. They also don't mind junking a carefully prearranged schedule at the mere glimpse of a bare breast or a clean husband crawling out of a shower. So what if the husband has an early-morning meeting -- the wife who is a last-born is in the mood for love!

Dr. Leman's advice: "Because they were the babies in their families, last-borns were probably held and kissed more than the other children and tend to be affectionate by nature. The person who reaches out and touches you on the arm when she is talking to you is likely to be a baby. I am not saying that touching someone is a sexual act, but my point is that babies don't hesitate to make physical contact with other people.

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