Want to boost your sexual confidence? Here's a behind-the-scenes look into how men get their mojo and transition effortlessly from the bar to the bedroom. Find out exactly what's going on in your guy's brain and learn what men do to seal the deal. Use the same tactics they do to become a regular bedroom bombshell yourself!
Most guys lack confidence in their ability to physically turn on a woman and "rock her world" when it comes time to hit the sheets. A woman knows right away if she's dealing with one of these “boy-men” and runs for the hills as soon as she realizes it. If you want to make sure she sees you as a sexually confident kind of guy -- the kind of guy who can ignite throbbing sexual passions deep inside her -- you need to become a master at giving women an incredible sexual experience. Here are 10 powerful tips to get you started.
Number 10: Uncover the Source of Sexual Confidence
Sexual confidence comes as a result of knowing how to give a woman mind-blowing pleasure. It's the confidence that the woman you're with will have a once-in-a-lifetime experience with you. It's knowing all the steps -- from the first eye contact all the way to the “end game” -- and knowing how to build anticipation at every step along the way. Start by practicing my “two steps forward, one step back” technique by escalating things, then backing off, then escalating further, then backing off again. The anticipation and arousal this creates will drive her insane. Don't say I didn't warn you.
Number 9: Get Out of the Manipulation Mindset
Guys are always curious about how to “trick” a girl into bed -- what the magic words are, etc. I personally know a few guys who do this… and I can tell you it does not lead to fulfillment. Avoid this whole “manipulation mindset,” and stop trying to figure out what the magic bullets are to get a woman to do what you want in a dishonest way. It's much better to work on becoming an interesting guy who knows what to do to build attraction in a natural, non-manipulative way. If what you're doing feels wrong or unethical, stop it. There are better ways to get what you want.
Number 8: Stop Idealizing Beautiful Women
Most guys get fooled into believing that just because a woman is unusually attractive, she's also usually honest and would never consider taking from you, cheating on you or lying to you. The reality is that people are never 100% “good” or 100% “bad.” There are situations where any person would lie, cheat, steal, or be disloyal. When you accept the reality that people are people, a beautiful woman is still human, and that the woman you feel strongly for is just as likely to be dishonest or disloyal as any other, you'll take her off that pedestal you put her on. And that's an important step toward achieving sexual confidence.
Number 7: Looks Don't Matter
Nothing about how you look, how old you are, how tall you are, how much you weigh, how much money you make, or whether or not you're her type has anything to do with how you can make a woman feel once you're in bed with her. A key to remember is that after a woman has experienced a mind-blowing intimate experience with you, that experience alone will render all of that other stuff irrelevant. It just won't matter. Picture yourself in this future ahead of time and it'll help make it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Number 6: Delay Your Gratification
Delaying gratification becomes more profound the more you think about it -- and when it comes to sex, it's absolutely critical. It not only allows you to build the sexual tension and make her want you more and more, but the teasing and anticipation act as amplifiers to her arousal. Bottom line: You are more likely to turn her on -- and more likely to take things to a physical level -- if you're cool and calm. Lose your need for instant results, and you'll drive her crazy.
Number 5: Act Like Sex Is Normal
A lot of guys get nervous when it comes time to have sex; they think they need to start acting differently when it's time to “do the deed.” But sex is normal, so keep acting normal as things heat up. Don't make a big deal out of it; keep having fun; keep teasing; keep acting light. Smoothly, confidently, comfortably progress from one step to the next, all the while enjoying yourself and acting like all is normal -- because it is.
Number 4: Put Sex Into Perspective
Instead of positioning sex as the ultimate goal and the center of your purpose, move it so it's simply one of your many goals. Make it a natural outcome if you like a woman and if you choose to spend the time and effort to get to that point. Take the “pinnacle value” out of sex, put it in perspective, and your relaxed attitude will make you much more likely to get it.
Number 3: Tame the Fear of Rejection
As you progress from one step to the next with a woman -- from a casual date to touching, kissing and beyond -- the stakes get bigger and bigger. Men typically feel more apprehensive as they progress from one step to the next, and feel less confident moving to the next step as things get more intense. The fear is not of being rejected or stopped, but of losing all the ground that has been gained, and going back to zero. Fortunately, the more involved you get, the more likely it is you'll succeed. The next step involves less risk, and it makes the sexual act more likely. Remember this.
Number 2: Interpret Her Actions
If she stops you, it usually doesn't mean that she wants you to stop forever; it means that you didn't get her turned on enough. Interpret it as “I'm not ready yet,” rather than “Go away, I don't like you anymore.” Stop, lean back, talk casually for a while and just relax. Then get her even more turned on than before. Feel free to make her ask you for sex… or even beg. “Please” is a great word -- teach her to use it, and she'll love you for it.
Number 1: Get In Touch With the Animal Inside
A woman wants a man who's in touch with his inner animal. If he's overly logical, overly analytical, overly controlled, overly educated, it shows a woman that he cannot let the animal out. At an instinctive level, a woman knows that this means she won't be able to feel anything strong toward him, and she knows he won't be able to arouse any sexual feelings inside of her. Study, get to know, make friends with, and develop the animal inside you. Educating yourself in this area is one of the most important things you can do to take your sexual confidence to the next level.
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