Despite the movie titles and song lyrics to the contrary, boys do cry. Some merely shed a few tears every decade or so, but others seem to bawl like babies. And while the majority of iVillage women who shared their opinion on the topic expressed their attraction to men who are not afraid to show their emotions, plenty of iVillagers were quick to put a limit on male tear flow.
Those in favor of men crying went so far as to say that men who aren't afraid to cry are "sexy" and "brave." As iVillager Tabitha puts it, "men who cry are brave because they just let go. So many guys are scared to let the tears flow, and that is truly sad." Men who cry are also perceived as more manly than those who don't. Says iVillager Ursula, "I feel fortunate to have a man in my life who is secure enough in his manhood to show that he is vulnerable and that he is not made of steel.
It's the men who are made of steel that make many women nervous. "Usually, when a man is feeling emotional, the only way he shows it is by being angry," says iVillager Daisy. "I think it's healthy when a man can express his true emotions. I'd rather see a man cry than act out in anger!" iVillager Benji agrees: "I would rather have a man who cries than one who shows his sadness and pain through violence."
Why Men Don't Cry
iVillager Lana is onto something when she says that it's time men started showing their emotions. "In the past, men were forced to hide their emotions, which only caused more stress and anxiety," she explains. Scientific studies back up her theory. Research shows that many of the health problems that plague men -- including a lower average age of death -- are due in part to an inability show emotions or cry.
Generally, boys stop crying in their teen years, when all the "crying is unmanly" lessons dating back to their toddler years finally sink in. Yet while plenty of women feel sorry for men who feel they must hold back their tears, a good number of iVillagers rather like the fact that men don't cry on a regular basis.