Finding a Balance
"I think it's a positive thing for a man to cry, as long as he's crying over appropriate things," explains iVillager Twinlakota. "If he cries because he's insecure, then that's a turn-off. I want a man who is strong and confident, someone who will protect me when needed." iVillager Nancy agrees: "If a man cries at the right time, it's good, but too much sensitivity ruins everything that men stand for."
"A little crying is very touching and demonstrates desirable sensitivity," chimes in iVillager Rene. "But sob like my three-year-old and you can go back to your momma!" Rene adds that she wants her man to be strong for her, so that she can cry when she wants to.
"There's a fine line between what is acceptable to women and what isn't when it comes to men and crying," says Sherry Amatenstein, iVillage Dating Doyenne. "On the one hand, women like it when men are in touch with their emotions and feel comfortable showing their vulnerability. On the other hand, women are raised to want a strong guy. If a man is too sensitive, women get nervous that they'll have to play protector all the time, that they'll be forced to take care of their man."