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Our Brains on Sex: How Men and Women Think About the Dirty Differently

They say women are from Venus and men are from Mars but how does that theory play out when it comes to thinking about sex? (11 Photos)

Gina Roberts-Grey on Sep 11, 2012 at 1:46PM

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Our Brains on Sex: How Men and Women Think About the Dirty Differently

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While Women Need an Emotional Connection to Have Sex...

Typically, women “need to feel the security of being loved in order to have sex,” says psychiatrist Carole Lieberman, M.D., author of Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets.

From a young age, women are taught that sex belongs in a loving relationship and sex without emotional commitment is a no-no, says Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., psychologist, marriage and relationship therapist and bestselling author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship. In a way, women have been taught that first comes love, then comes sex. You find Prince Charming -- someone who will protect and provide for you -- and then you have sex to help carry on the species and live happily ever after. That fairy tale isn’t drilled into men’s heads, so for them sex is not as loaded with expectation.

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