Breaking Down the Nanny-Parent Relationship

The dynamic of the nanny-parent relationship is deeply complicated. How often do you invite a virtual stranger into the most intimate parts of your life to deal with your most precious asset, your kids? Add to that the stress of a new nanny and the unavoidable "Mommy Guilt" that mothers face over going back to work -- there are several reasons why mothers are resentful and defensive when trying to reconcile their child care choices. The ultimate irony here is that a nanny is supposed to make life easier. As author Jessika Auerbach puts it in And Nanny Makes Three, "Sadly, it seems the debate among women is becoming more polarized rather than less, as dedicated full-time stroller pushers and briefcase-wielding amazons face each other down with the mutual battle cry of 'I'm doing what's best, so get out of my way.'" The best way to approach these intimate issues is to get these feelings out in the open, share common thoughts and experiences, and provide reassurance and tools for moms to manage and confront their wide-ranging emotions. Finally, we have some books that do just that! And Nanny Makes Three, by Jessika Auerbach Written by a woman who has four children and has employed close to 20 nannies, And Nanny Makes Three takes an in-depth look at the parent-nanny relationship from both sides of the issue. Through interviews with mothers and caregivers, as well as the author's own thoughtful advice, this book goes directly to the sources to reveal their candid thoughts, emotions and frustrations.

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