The Perfect Stranger: The Truth About Mothers and Nannies
. Kaylin doesn't waste any time getting to the point. "For all the intimacy and in-home comforts that one-on-one arrangement can provide, the essential fraudulence of installing someone mom-like in your home so that you can go off and do something else isn't in any way easy to reconcile. And the leap of faith it requires can make you crazy." The Perfect Stranger: The Truth About Mothers and Nannies
pulls from the huge rift that has developed between working moms and stay-at-home moms in the media, and shows the conflict that working mothers feel in particular when faced with the prospect of hiring a "substitute" while they are away. The book tells accounts of other working moms and nannies on the East Coast, revealing their true confessions and sifting through the murky emotional issues to analyze these attitudes and discuss their implications. The book's power, however, lies in its anecdotal evidence that the relationship between mothers and nannies can, in fact, be peaceful--with a lot of work. Emotional issues, pay issues, race issues, class issues and more come to light in the power struggles that the stories convey. Parents who are feeling ambivalent about hiring a nanny must read this book; they'll recognize their own inner thoughts page after page, and will hopefully come away with a clearer understanding of what it means to hire--and come to peace with--full-time child care. Related content:
• Most nannies have no official training
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• 10 signs that it's time to terminate your nanny
• Make the nanny-parent relationship work for you.