Even if you’re in the big white dress. Even if Pachelbel’s Canon is playing and necks are craning in anticipation of your walk down the aisle. If you know in your bones that saying “I do” will be a colossal mistake, turn on your dyed-to-match stilettos and walk the other way -- fast.
Yes, it will be the hardest thing you’ve ever done. But you owe it to yourself and your wannabe spouse to yank the emergency brake if you want out. Sure, you may forfeit some of your deposits and you’ll have to answer some tough questions about your change of heart, but bailing on a wedding ultimately costs less pain and money than filing for divorce, says psychologist Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness.