Breakup Survival

Week Two: Surveying the (Newly) Single You

Of course, you may run smack into the fact that you don't feel ready to jump into the dating game or even the land of the one-night stands at all. Issues around body image, trust, anger and downright fatigue from dealing with your breakup may make the prospect of sex with another person unrealistic. What's a woman to do? You guessed it: masturbate.

We probably don't need to tell you that masturbation can be the post-breakup woman's best friend. And while some women see it as a lesser substitute to ''real'' sex or as symbolic of their solitary state, masturbation can be a way to really love and appreciate yourself.

Reinventing the Romantic Ideal

When a romantic relationship ends, many of us also begin to scrutinize the very idea of the romantic couple, and what our vision of romantic love is. Those of us who were raised with traditional romantic ideals of how love should be find ourselves taking another look at those beliefs. Some of us feel as though a veil has been lifted -- and this can bring a lot of anger for those of us who feel that we've been duped by our romantic ideals. We find that, instead of expecting a relationship with a real human being, we were taught to expect some impossible ideal.

This is a good time to explore the idea of developing more realistic expectations about love and relationships. It might be difficult, but in doing so you can find strength -- and more healthy, suitable partnerships in the future.

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