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13 Ways to Boost Your Daughter's Self-Esteem

10. Keep her close
The only way to really know your daughter is to spend time with her - listening, sharing stories. Be sure she is comfortable speaking freely about herself and her friends. This means, letting her talk without interruption or judgment so you get a full picture of who she is.

11. Cool doesn't mean confident
Outfitting her with the latest in gadgets and fashionable clothes won't make your daughter strong. "Parents sometimes seem to forget that it's how well she's put together on the inside that gives her high self esteem," says Criswell. "All that time spent shopping and coveting things do girls a disservice."

12. Don't be her rescue squad
There is, to be sure, a time when difficulties at school demand adult intervention. But negative emotions are a part of life. If you try to save your daughter from feeling sad, you weaken her coping skills. Rough times build resilience.

13. Set limits
Our children need to accept boundaries. It's fine to say "yes" when you can. But don't hesitate to say "no" when you need to. Just make sure it comes from a place of kindness, not criticism. Criswell points out, "If you start a foundation of deep respect at home, your girl will develop respect for others and herself."

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