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The lovely (and child-free) Cameron Diaz plays a mom in the new movie What to Expect When You're Expecting and recently she was on the TODAY Show advising dads to shield their eyes when their babies are being born. "I have been in the room with...all three of my sister's births. The first was a c-section, which will change your life. Don't witness that. Then the vaginal birth, which will change your life. Men: Do not look at it!" She then went on to tell dads to be sure and "stay behind the curtain" during the birth.
Since it's Cameron Diaz, I'll take all of this with a giant grain of salt. But it does irk when people -- celebs or not -- put negativity out there about birthing babies. Or feed a stereotype of the hands-off-dad. My husband saw both our boys being born and he wouldn't have had it any other way. Once the baby was pushed out, however, I did ask my husband if he was, you know, traumatized after witnessing my lady parts spit out an almost 8-pound person. He crinkled his forehead and said "No. It was amazing!" And we did go on to have another kid and he keeps pestering me about a third, so, yeah, he's fine.
My friend Katy can see where Cameron is coming from. "For my first delivery, I was adamant that my husband stay at my head the whole time. I was horrified at the idea of him seeing any of the action and was worried he'd be disgusted and our sex life would plummet." But after Katy's doctor encouraged the dad-to-be to get down there, he got the full show. "He was more amazed than horrified and he doesn't seem to be scarred for life when it comes to the state of my lady bits," says Katy. For their second child, dada got right into catching position. "Neither of us thought twice about how this would affect our sex life this go round," says Katy.
My sister-in-law Amy actually asked me if Cameron was joking. "My husband saw everything and was fascinated. I wouldn't change our experience a bit." But my friend Michelle -- who birthed her babe at home -- does have a warning: While her man had a bird's eye view of everything, he absolutely couldn't handle the afterbirth. "He was prepared to see the birth after watching several videos of natural childbirth, but he literally had to leave the room when the placenta came out. Even today he can't even talk about it without feeling queasy."