Your first few dates were fun, and you’re starting to like this guy. Then the Racecar Romeo tries to accelerate from “getting to know each other” to a “serious relationship” so fast you get whiplash. He blurts out “I love you,” and you shake your head wondering, “Where did that come from?”
When a man moves too fast, he may be mistaking lust for love or he may be in love with the idea of falling in love. Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences says a man can be enamored with the idea of love at first sight, too. Maria Coder, founder and author of InvestiDate: How to Investigate Your Date, recommends watching your guy’s body language to uncover how he really feels. How physically near -- or far -- is your Racecar Romeo when he tells you he loves you? “Closing the gap between you indicates a level of intimacy,” says Coder. If you need to reach out to hug or even touch him, your man might be leaving space to wiggle away. If he moves in close, he's probably sincere and open to a more serious relationship. But if that space between you is too narrow for your comfort, tell him you want to keep moving forward, just at a slower pace.