--excerpted from Silver's Spells for Love
This spell works to stop you from sabotaging the love you already have or the new advances that you turn away. You have to remember that you deserve love. This is one of those spells that crosses the line between "getting it" and "keeping it," and can be used for both purposes.
Supplies: A pink candle, mirror, pin, bottle of vanilla-scented oil, love oil, love cologne, or blessing oil (vanilla's correspondences include Venus, the element of water, and the energies of love, lust, and mental power); a handful of dried, ground lady's mantle herb (perfect for love spells: feminine, Venus, element of water); a special candle holder that speaks of love to you.
Instructions: Pick one evening to stay in, relax and work some magic on your love life (preferably on the day and hour of Venus during the waxing of the moon, but ok if not). Hold the pink candle in front of you while gazing into the mirror and say:
Lady Venus, I add my name to this candle times three. Aid me in my desire to be one, to be loved and be free. I hereby take the first step in reclaiming my life, by my will, by my Word, by the Elementals and Wights. Be with me through the painful cold nights, for through me comes the change that brings love to my life.
Then take your pin and inscribe your name three times on the pink candle: once to love yourself (envision yourself feeling good, happy and secure, and see yourself taking pride in everything you do), twice to love another (picture yourself happy and in love -- remember not to specify one particular individual, that's a no-no), and thrice for another's love for you.
Hold this visualization in your mind as you anoint the candle with your special oil. Chant the following:
At one with the flame, my inner fire, Venus grant my heart's desire.
Feel the power and emotion of what you wish to accomplish pouring through your hands and fully charging the candle until your fingers throb. Roll the anointed candle in the lady's mantle herb. Put the candle in a special holder and light the wick. Sprinkle the remaining herb around the base of the candle. Blow the loose herb from your palm into the winds of change.
I also recommend burning the candle while taking a spiritual bath, meditating on the changes needed in your life to make you a better person and how that change will affect your confidence level and overall appearance to others. In fact, you may burn the candle at various times up until the full of the moon, at which time it is appropriate to burn until it burns itself out or bury the remainder on your property. You should see results by the next full moon.