Daddy_mike: Why would someone have a need to flirt if they already get an enormous amount of affection and love? Does flirting lead to cheating?
DrBonnieWeil: Daddy, yes, it can lead to cheating. It is very unusual for someone who is getting a lot of love and affection to flirt. Even though you feel you may be giving a lot of love and affection, you may not be giving it to the point they want it. We usually give the way we want to receive. Is it possible that your spouse's "script" is different from yours?
Daddy_mike: Someone told me that it was because of her low self-esteem.
DrBonnieWeil: Daddy, that's too easy and too much psychological jargon. Everyone in the world has it to a certain degree. If she has low self-esteem then she needs building up. Again, if she is being loved the way she needs to be loved, is she conveying it to you, and are you asking? Use the Fight Fair formula and go for it.
Daddy_mike: What could be missing? Sex is awesome.
DrBonnieWeil: Daddy, maybe she needs emotional connection, not physical. Men act physically, women need to talk and be validated and be heard.