Dlynettef: I was in a five-year relationship with a man who I thought was my 'soul mate.' He cheated and after a long, drawn-out breakup a year ago, I am feeling awfully lonely and sad. I still wish Prince Charming would show up. But how can I be sure the next man won't do something similar?
DrBonnieWeil: Def, great question. I would suggest therapy to work through any patterns you may have in your family where adultery was the issue, so you can trust yourself better in terms of your picking mechanism. And when you do date someone, ask him how he feels about fidelity?
Dlynettef: Thanks. I have a lot of baggage, so it's not the men, it's me.
DrBonnieWeil: Also look in my book Adultery, the Forgivable Sin for the warning signs of self-centered people who could commit adultery. And ask if there may be some adultery in your family that you may not know about. This was a wonderful chat tonight. I also want to say that I hope this chat helps you to "Make Up, Don't Break Up" and to see "Adultery" as the forgivable sin. I look forward to seeing all of you on the message board. Thanks for coming tonight.