Cmtdarden: Up last is 3421.
34213421: My boyfriend and I just broke up. How can I get over it? Why does it appear he is not affected by the breakup?
BrendaShoshanna: That's a good question. Men are often afraid to show emotion for fear that it is weak, not masculine and that they will seem too vulnerable. In fact, men are often even more sensitive and vulnerable than women are, which is why they hide it with an extra macho attitude, of not caring. The second part of that question was answered, why he seems not to care. The first part is different. It takes time to get over a relationship, so to start, be patient and kind with yourself. Focus upon your strengths and the good you received from the relationship. Figure out the lessons you learned and then stay aware of all the ways in which you are worthwhile and lovable. Be patient. Surround yourself with positive friends and good activities, and before long you'll be ready to go out there again.
Cmtdarden: Brenda will be doing a wrap up now.
BrendaShoshanna: In closing for tonight, I'd like to say that it's important to realize that men are complex individuals. Also the most crucial and important part of all relationships is honesty and communication.
BrendaShoshanna: If you communicate without blame, or without making the other feel bad about him/herself, they will be able to hear you and be willing to listen, and respond. Trust, loyalty and patience are a part of all relationships. They must be built carefully over time. Come join me at http://www.Brendashoshanna.com for my free e-zine on love. Thank you all for joining me tonight. It's been a real pleasure.
Cmtdarden: Brenda, thank you. It was a pleasure having you again, and we will see you on the boards. We hope to chat with you again soon.
BrendaShoshanna: This is a lively night here tonight. Seems like there's a lot to be said. Hope to see you all again soon.
Cmtdarden: Brenda's book, Why Men Leave, can be located at: Amazon.com - click here
BrendaShoshanna: There's a lot to say. Get my book Why Men Leave. Read it. It will help.