Chat with Dr. Joan Irvine, author of Recipes for Hot Sex

Dr Joan: How old are you?
shawnamarie99: I am 21, he is 28.
Dr Joan: Is he under a lot of pressure from work?
shawnamarie99: He did just get a promotion and is working a lot of hours, like 16 hours a day sometimes.
Dr Joan: This will do it for men -- stress and work interferes with their sex drive.
shawnamarie99: So what do I do Dr Joan?
Dr Joan: I would suggest that you set up a special night that is all sex.
shawnamarie99: I tried wearing a little sexy negligée the other night.
Dr Joan: If he objects, just hold him down and give him a massage and then lead into sex, perhaps, making love to his penis.
shawnamarie99: I give him back massages and stroke his back, but I don't get much out of it. Dr Joan: Then, just start to make love to his penis or start to play with yourself in front of him and FORCE him to watch you.
shawnamarie99: How can you make love to his penis when he is not into it, and he is rolled over. I even asked him really seductively to roll over, and he said he was comfortable the way he was. I am too embarrassed to play with myself. I am afraid he will think I am sick or something.
barkley211: I read that men are visually stimulated, so they like to watch!
Dr Joan: Have you told him how much you miss him making love with you? And barkley, you are RIGHT.
shawnamarie99: Well, I just asked the other night what was wrong with me and why he didn't want to make love to me anymore. He just asked me not to start. I don't know how I could start to touch myself in front of him.

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