Chat with Dr. Joan Irvine, author of Recipes for Hot Sex

Dr Joan: Find some time, any time, and reconnect! Do you watch adult movies together? Sometimes men don't know how to suggest this.
shawnamarie99: No, the idea has never come up. How could I get one though?
Cmtdarden: Shawn, just go to where they rent X-rated videos and ask for something not-too-hard porn.
shawnamarie99: I don't want to go to my local video store, people always watch you, sorry guys. Maybe I am just a prude or something.
Dr Joan: Ask him what his fantasy is and then do it if you feel comfortable. Any other suggestions from people?
OP temom: Do striptease for him.
Mizlizzy: Order an adult video, online or mail order.
Abob: There are plenty of somewhat erotic movies that are not "X-rated".
shawnamarie99: I think about doing all this stuff, but it scares me.
karenz99: Men really seem to like it when the woman brings an "enhancement."
Dr Joan: Remember: whatever is safe and consensual between adults is okay.
shawnamarie99: So you don't think that it is anything I have done to turn him off? You think that he is just under stress and it is normal for couples to go two months without sex?
Dr Joan: Dr. Patti has GREAT suggestions at But: Any more than two months and there's either a problem with him or somewhere else. Next question.
momofcutie1: My husband and I have been married for almost three years (in December). He works full-time and goes to school full-time. When he gets home it's crazy. He wants me, but is so tired he can't do anything. He works Saturdays too. I want to know how I can make coming home a little less stressful for him? There is more to it than just that, but that is the condensed version.

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