Chat with Dr. Joan Irvine, author of Recipes for Hot Sex

Dr Joan: Do you have children?
momofcutie1: Just one. She is asleep by the time he gets home.
Dr Joan: Then, forget dinner and just serve yourself for dinner. Give him a massage, a bath, whatever.
momofcutie1: I have tried. He says "I'm too tired, let me get more sleep, I have to drive."
Dr Joan: Then plan one time a week for pleasure and reconnecting. In the morning for instance. I love the morning, plus men are ready and it takes less time. Be careful about it becoming a pattern.
momofcutie1: I love him like crazy, he's just going through burnout. He doesn't want to do anything on the weekend either. It's killing me. I'm almost masculine in that way. I like it, I love it, I want more of it (sex).
Dr Joan: You need to schedule time for connecting and sex.
karenz99: Morning sex is nice 'cause you are already relaxed. Early morning cartoons can keep kids busy.
Dr Joan: Then as suggested before, just ask him to watch, ask him to kiss you as you pleasure yourself. If you need to use a vibrator, use it. Then you're at least getting some pleasure and he may JOIN YOU.
momofcutie1: True. Thank you for some new ideas.
abob: Okay -- first, I wish we would be careful about our statement regarding men wanting sex, sex, sex. As made obvious by this chat, sometimes it is the other way around. I think that blanket statement may make some of us women feel funny or wrong that the situation is reversed.
Dr Joan: I never intended that. I love sex with my partner.

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