Chat with Dr. Joan Irvine, author of Recipes for Hot Sex

lanan99: I'll try it -- I'd try anything at this point. Thanks.
dnax2: I have 11-month-old twins and have basically no desire. How do I get back into the groove? My spouse is getting discouraged.
Dr Joan: Dnax, as I mentioned before, low libido can cause problems. Check with your doctor or read the current books on this issue or try herbal formulas. Low libido causes so many problems in a relationship. When I was interviewed by Barbara Walters on The View, there was a couple with the same problem. Their sex life went from three times a week to once a month after the birth of their child and he was not happy. Take time, do what you need for yourself and your relationship.
dnax2: Herbal formulas, hmmm. I'll try. Thanks.
Dr Joan: I list a good herbal formula on
karenz99: Great chat! I mentioned fantasy role playing with respect to spicing things up and I saw a few more bits about it. Is it a successful way to shake up things between the sheets or is it something that couples who are having trouble should stay away from?
Dr Joan: I think sex and something new HELPS a relationship. So many times, it creates a new way to communicate and so many times, sex is the problem, one partner wants more or different and the other partner doesn't do this.
karenz99: Can too much role playing suggest that there is something wrong?
Dr Joan: So get a video, a new toy, and no, role playing is good unless one of you feels uncomfortable.
karenz99: Well, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone....

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