Sometimes it can be beneficial to look at things through "the eyes of a child." This helps to give the parent some perspective on how the child sees things. Let’s look at a scenario concerning how a certain child perceives different aspects of a divorce.
A mother has a son who is very young. Her son has been talking about being afraid of hearing ghosts on frequent occasions. Not only is the child talking about hearing ghosts all the time but he is also following her around asking why daddy isn't here to scare the ghosts away. This concerned the mother very much because the recent divorce is troubling the child. The woman didn't know what to do.
It is very easy to become concerned about this child's behavior. It also became evident to the mother that when the little boy was worrying about something other than the divorce, it really meant that he was having some problems with the divorce. He just didn't know how to express himself any other way.
Young children do see the changes that are going on in the environment around them. They are aware of the changes that are taking place between the two parents and how they react to each other. They also see how these changes are affecting their own lifestyle changes. Some parents get divorced when the children are at a very young age. In spite of this, the children don't have many memories of the separation, but what they do know is how they feel at that moment. When children are asked, "What is the most disturbing part about your parents being divorced?" Most children answer by saying that they don't get to see enough of the parent that they don't live with. This is a perfectly logical answer. Every child wants to be with both of his parents.