Take a Ride in the Car
"I have found that it becomes easier to talk with my daughter when we are in the car and don't necessarily have to look each other in the eye. Also, if I feign a slight indifference and let her start the conversation, she opens up more. I show her respect and try to give her time alone, especially when she pushes me away. She always comes back later to talk."
"We made a rule that only one person can talk at once. If I'm talking, he must respect me and listen, and when my son is talking, I must listen to him. It works well and keeps us from yelling at each other."
Try A Different Mode of Communication
"If both you and your child have an email account, this can be a fun way to communicate. Some teens may be more open with you in cyberspace than at home."
Choose Your Battles
"As the mother of a 15-year-old I have learned to pick my battles. If you argue over the small stuff such as hairstyle and whether her room is clean, then you will always have a conflict. It is better to let the small stuff go and concentrate on the larger issues such as curfew, alcohol, and other issues that help mold your teen into the type of adult you want her to be."