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In addition to dodging street corner Santa Clauses and long lines at the shopping mall, there’s one other holiday minefield that requires careful navigation: Workplace sweets. During the winter months, it seems like coworkers you didn’t even know existed pop into your office to offer you a freshly baked cookie, cupcake or other treat. No wonder we all plump up by the time January first rolls around. And if you’re on a diet during the holidays? Forget about it.
Debilray’s coworkers are already on a sweets-for-everyone spree. First, the iVillage member’s boss brought in brownies, and when those ran out, another colleague supplied enough pumpkin muffins for everybody. What do you do when someone offers you a holiday treat that you’re not sure you should splurge on? Do you politely say no thank you, take one and throw it out or eat it and feel guilty about it?
“I didn't want to blow a whole day of activity on one muffin, so all day I had this muffin with me at work and at home,” say debilray on the the Ultimate Weight Loss Solution board.
iVillage member ingrid_susan says she wouldn’t be able to resist if she carried the treat around with her all day. “I've never had that kind of self-control. When I'm given something I don't want to eat, I drive it to husband’s office immediately, or -- I hate to say this -- throw it out.” I’m with ingrid_susan. I have zero impulse control, so I have to say no and avert my gaze from the baked goods immediately. If saying no isn’t an option, it’s in the trash the second the gift-giver walks away. I hate to be wasteful, but junk food -- to my mind -- is wasted calories anyway.
Do you eat the sweets offered to you, say “no thanks” or throw away want you don’t want? Talk about it on the boards.
Another hot topic on the iVillage boards this week is sex. Specifically, how open are you about your sex life? Do you talk about it with friends? Are you comfortable discussing details with your partner or spouse? And how do you feel about explaining the birds and the bees to your kids, if you have them?
iVillage member ellennac likes to keep her sex life under wraps. “I tend to be extremely private about my sex life, and don't really want to hear about someone else’s. Behind closed doors with my hubby, I can talk about anything, try anything and do anything, but that all ends when the door opens,” she writes on the Finding Your Best Life board.
However, she did try to educate her kids about sex. “I wanted my kids to know the facts,” she explains.
Like ellenmac, sisterhoney61 grew up in a family where sex was never discussed. “I never even got ‘the talk’ from my parents when I went through puberty. I can easily discuss sex with my husband and my best friend. And since I belong to several of the sex boards here on iVillage, I can discuss sex with perfect strangers. However, I don't go into the particulars of my sex life,” she says.
“I think that it's great that the sex boards are there,” says member libelulle. “Not a lot of people can talk about sex with their friends, but many do have questions or simply want to share and discuss it. It's a good way of being about to talk about sex behind the anonymity of the web.”
When I was younger I used to love talking about sex. Now, not so much. If I’m having an issue, I’ll confide in a friend, but those days of giggling over my last sexual adventure (or misadventure) are over. I’m not sure if it’s just a part of growing up or becoming more reserved. I just seem to find other things more engrossing to talk about than what’s going on between my sheets.
Do you spill all the details on what goes on in your bedroom? Join the conversation on the board or chime in below.