Community Roundup: Giving Up Sex to Be Thin, Suing Over STDs & Other Hot Topics

Everyone is talking about sex on the health boards this week

This week, we reported on a survey that found 50 percent of women and 25 percent of men would give up sex for a summer if it meant not gaining weight. The poll also found that 73 percent of Americans said they would part with their cell phones, computers and TV for a flat stomach. And, despite the bad economy, the majority of Americans surveyed said they would rather lose 10 to 20 pounds than get a job promotion.

Many women on our message boards were flummoxed by the survey’s findings. “It sounds as though people want a magic trick, rather than having to work at eating well and exercising,” wrote cl-nenuphar_19 on the Sexual Health boards. “It's also easy to say they'll give things up if there were a guarantee that they'd slim down, when they'll not be put to the test!”

When cmtasha asked the women on the Let’s Talk About Sex board if they would give up sex to stay slim, their response was unanimous. Steamer936 spoke for everyone when she said, “No way, no how! Bring on the pounds! The sex stays!”

Would you give up sex to stay slim? Post your response on our message board.

The topic that got the most play this week involved the news story about a woman who faces jail time for knowingly exposing her sexual partners to HIV. The German pop singer, 28-year-old Nadja Benaissa, had unprotected sex with several men, even though she knew she had HIV. One of the men, with whom she had a three-month relationship, is now HIV-positive.

On the Sexual Fantasies board, the story raised many questions about gender equality. Some people wondered whether Benaissa will get a more lenient sentence than a man would. Others hoped stories like this will make men take more responsibility for safe sex in the future.

“I figure whatever [punishment they would give a man], the same thing should be done to her,” says nhgal2006. “Hopefully this will have more men worrying about using protection in the future.”

Though everyone agreed that the men had been foolish to engage in unprotected sex, as argy_bargy wrote, foolishness is not a crime. Since she knowingly gave at least one guy HIV, they all felt she should serve time in jail.

In this country, hiding an incurable STD from your partner -- even if it’s not life-threatening -- is a punishable offense. Give someone herpes or HPV and you could be slapped with criminal charges or, more likely, a hefty lawsuit. While I don’t think that will make anyone more likely to use protection, I do think it will make spurned exes more likely to bring their former partners to court.

What’s your take? Is not disclosing an STD a lawsuit-worthy offense? Chime in below.

Another hot topic on the boards this week revolved around research that shows regular exercise can boost mood, reduce stress and anxiety, alleviate depression and improve self-esteem. Considering that, I wonder what would happen if everyone in America followed the CDC’s recommendations for physical activity? Would we all be happier people? My question stemmed from a conversation this week on the Moms Getting Fit board. Konnie, aka “cl-thegymmom,” asked other moms if they thought fit people were happier.

Not surprisingly, many women on the boards who have experienced the effects of exercise firsthand said yes. “I know when my weight is down and I am exercising regularly, I feel better about life,” says theresa_winger.

Others took a more scientific stance. “Being fit increases the probability that that person is physically healthy, feels good about herself, and has an outlet for anger, stress and depression. So in theory they should be happier, and I think that most are,” reasons libelulle.

Still, some felt that exercise can sometimes foster perfectionist tendencies. “In my experience, many really fit people suffer from self-esteem issues. They are driven to look their best and are in constant competition with themselves,” says cmkarla.

“I'd say being fit makes one feel better, but not necessarily happy,” says cl-thegymmom.

What’s your take? Are fit people happier people? Share your thoughts.

Like This? Read These:
- Spreading an STD Could Land You in Jail
- Would You Give Up Sex to Stay Slim?
- Finding Good Reasons to Exercise
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