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The office can rival high school with its rumors and cliques. Ca_grandma_2009 found herself the target of arched eyebrows and inquisitive glances when she started losing weight. Some whispered, Did she have bariatric surgery?. Is she ill?
Being the focus of lunchtime gossip sent ca_grandma_2009 to the iVillage 100 Pounds or More to Go group for support. The truth is that by eating less and exercising more, she’s lost an impressive 50 pounds. “Part of me wants to remind these women to not judge until they have walked a mile in my shoes, but I know I just need to drop it,” she writes. “How do you deal with office gossips?”
She got a stream of good advice. Don’t feel threatened by the gossip, some said. Instead, take it as a compliment. “Isn't it wonderful to know that people notice?!” asked cl-liz_in_az, adding, “Be proud! Even if you're not ‘there’ yet, you've worked hard and you deserve credit for all the effort you've put in!”
Jadashelbie says speaking truth to gossip is a way for you to garner some much-deserved praise. When she was asked point blank in the middle of a baby shower if she’d had bariatric surgery, she stood up, twirled around and showed off her 45 pound-slimmer frame -- courtesy cutting out junk food and exercising. “I am proud of the changes I have made and thank you so much for noticing!” she told the group.
For happysj56, the best way to deal with gossip is to ignore it. “I am sure that there are people who notice my weight when it goes up and when it goes down,” she writes. “If they care about me, it is out of concern. If they don't, I don't care what they think.”
How about you? How do you respond when people are whispering about your weight? Tell us about it!
Can’t Afford Organic? Don’t Worry
News from the American Academy of Pediatrics in May that children with high concentrations of pesticides in their urine were more likely to develop attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder sparked a discussion on the February 2011 Expecting Club boards.
According to the AAP study, diet is the leading source of pesticide exposure in children. Mommyjj92 wanted to know if drinking non-organic milk while pregnant made her a bad mom. “We only have $30 to $40 a week to spend on groceries… and now I feel guilty because I feel like I’m knowingly harming my baby,” she wrote.
Mommyjj92 received a tidal wave of support from fellow moms who either also can’t afford organic or simply don’t believe the hype. “Focus on the fact that you are actually eating healthy foods whether organic or not,” wrote theavestersmom. “It's better to get the nutrients from fruits and veggies than none at all, right? Don't call yourself a bad mom for that.”
Isabellasnapple said she doesn’t believe the hype. “Correlation does not imply causation, so maybe the moms who ingested a lot of pesticides also ingested other harmful items, had certain genetic markers for ADHD, reared their kids in certain ways,” she wrote. “I'm not sure what produce was like in the late 70s, but I'm certain my mom didn't eat anything organic… and I turned out perfectly healthy and without ADHD.”
Where do you stand on the organic debate? Chime in below!