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After we split up, my ex-husband and I went into co-parenting counseling. The first few sessions, all we did was fight. There was so much conflict that my ex actually said, “Wait a minute, is this couples counseling? We already did that, and it didn’t work.”
Our co-parenting counselor reminded us of why we were there -- we were supposed to get along for the well-being of our child. Eventually, we stopped fighting and decided to parent as a team, despite the fact that we were divorced.
New York City bloggers Magda Pecsenye and Doug French are exploring this concept on their new blog, WhenTheFlamesGoUp.com. “We are not married anymore. We don’t really like each other the way friends do, and certainly don’t want to spend time with each other for fun. But we don’t hate each other. We’re friendly, and wish each other well,” says Pecsenye on the blog.
Yup, you read that right. A divorced couple is not only collaborating to raise their children -- they're writing a blog about it together. I’m curious to see what happens when Pecsenye and French have trouble agreeing on big parenting decisions, like how to discipline the kids or whether or not they should go to private school. It could be "he said, she said" in its truest form. It’s taken a lot of work for my ex and I to get along, and great patience on both of our sides, but news flash -- all couples fight. And when divorced couples fight, there’s little incentive outside of your kids to make up, (e.g., no sex). Will these two be candid and discuss everything from discipline conflicts to whether fart jokes are appropriate? What happens if one gets remarried (as I have) and a stepparent comes into the picture? Will they really get down to the nitty gritty? I'm going to keep watching to find out.
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