Can You Really Change Your Man? (And Should You Even Try?)

We've all at least contemplated it, haven't we? Changing a guy's hair, his clothes, his friends. But what happens with bigger issues, like helping with the housework or being more romantic? Are these efforts bound to backfire? According to Barbara DeAngelis, PhD, author of What Women Want Men to Know, "One of men's favorite complaints about women -- and one that women hate the most -- is that we are controlling and manipulative, and all our efforts to work on the relationship or communicate our needs are thinly veiled attempts to control the man in our life." What do you think? Have you considered a man a fixer-upper?

Read Dr. DeAngelis's advice for helping your partner understand the difference between trying to control him and trying to improve your relationship. Then, debate about what it really takes to change a guy -- and if you should try to -- below.

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