Have a creative approach? Do you have a different way of doing something or a new suggestion? If you do, the Criticizer will knock it down. His mission is to disagree with anything that is said. He likes to be right, no matter what. He finds problems wherever he goes, never opportunities. The Criticizer will never give you positive feedback but will always jump on your mistake. His favorite saying is "Bad idea."
Here are two work colleagues discussing an upcoming business trip:
Colleague: Let's drive instead of flying. We'll get there faster.
Criticizer: What, are you crazy?
Colleague: Why do you say that?
Criticizer: It's just a bad idea.
Colleague: OK. Let's fly up tonight so we can be fresh for tomorrow afternoon's presentation.
Criticizer: Where are you coming from? Bad idea.
Criticizer: Trust me on it. You have less experience. Your thinking is illogical.
Colleague: Please be specific and explain yourself.
Criticizer: What? Now you can't understand me? What's wrong with you?
A Criticizer likes to give negative feedback, but he is rarely is specific. Ask him for examples, evidence, or his reasoning for disagreeing. Emphasize that you want to incorporate his concerns to make the project as good as possible.
You must be persistent and not give up. He will find it hard to come up with examples or to explain his criticisms. When you ask for details about what he is saying he will often back down with an unproductive criticism.
All along, you emphasize that you value his opinion and want to understand his concerns. You say this as politely as possible. Eventually, he'll see that it's too much work to criticize you, because you always press him for more information. Information, that he can't give.
14 personality descriptions.
Cope better with these 5 tips.
Excerpted from Managing Workplace Negativity by Gary Topchik, published by AMACOM Books