I'd like you to try one of my favorite exercises, inspired by the writings of Louise Hay (You Can Heal Your Life). Give yourself plenty of time to do this. Stand in front of a mirror, clothed or unclothed. Look at your own face, reflected in the mirror, and look into your own left eye. (Many esoteric traditions teach that left eye contact deepens the spiritual aspects, perhaps because the left side of the body is governed by the right side of the brain, the site of intuition and nonlinear thinking.)
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Say to yourself, while holding the left eye in a stare, "I am a loving and lovable woman." Feel the surge of emotions that may surface, either resisting what you are telling yourself or affirming the truth of what you are saying. Think of other positive messages you can send yourself, such as, "I deserve to be loved just the way I am," or, "I am perfect just as I see myself now." These messages will help you become connected to your own essence. After time, even if you find this to be a difficult exercise, you will begin to sense a connection with the inner, sexual you. This is your sexual spirit connecting with your rational mind. Feel its power and know that this is the opening of the doorway to knowing and connecting with your own sexual spiritual, and sharing that with another human being, if you choose to do so. Linger in the mirror activity for as long as you wish. Practice this each day for a week.