Another common request I get from women and their partners relates to sexual positions and how to attain maximum pleasure, especially for the woman. Interestingly, many of the teachings in the Kama Sutra include allusions to nature, such as suggestions that lovers should emulate the behaviors of animals. Vatsayama writes that lovers may want to exhibit the characteristics of animals during lovemaking, by acting like a dog, a bull, a tiger and so on. If you and your partner are game, think about what animal you would like to mimic (even in small part) during your lovemaking. You can do this as subtly or as overtly as you choose. Whatever you do, let loose and have fun with this exercise. Try making animal sounds, showing animal behavior and even experimenting with new positions as you keep your chosen animal in mind.
If this does not work to stimulate increased pleasure, don't worry, there are always other means. As the Kama Sutra states, "If a man is unable to satisfy a ... woman, he should have recourse to various means to excite her passion." If there's any message that I often reinforce with couples it's that it is important to have a variety of approaches for producing shared pleasure. The fact is, many women need manual or oral stimulation before actual intercourse can be pleasurable. Pre-intercourse stimulation is a good method to discuss and practice with your partner, especially if intercourse often proves unsatisfying for you.
Using the principles and teachings of the Kama Sutra will surely bring new ideas and increased satisfaction to your lovemaking and improve intimacy, connection and closeness in your relationship. If you want to learn more, I suggest you buy one of my favorite tools for couples, one that has moved me in my own journey of integration of my sexual spirit into intimate bonding. It's the book (and tapes) by Deepak Chopra, The Path to Love: Renewing the Power of Spirit in Your Life. In it, you will find special exercises and philosophical guidelines for reaching ultimate bliss and spiritual union through love.
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