Wish We'd Known: 18 Things No One Tells You About Getting a Divorce

Even when ending your marriage is the right choice, it's still hard -- and not always in the way that you expect it to be. Here, 18 things we wish we'd known (19 Photos)

Elizabeth Shaw on Jun 28, 2012 at 10:24PM

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Wish We'd Known: 18 Things No One Tells You About Getting a Divorce

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18 Things No One Tells You About Getting a Divorce

We all know that about half of marriages end in divorce, but not a single one of us ever thinks it will happen to us -- which is why it can feel all the more unreal and heartbreaking when it does. In those early days, especially, it's easy to feel like you won't get through the next hour -- let alone the whole day. Here's what we wish we'd known.

You're Braver Than You Know
You're going to hear a lot of people telling you that you're taking the easy way out and that you should suck up all the hurt and sadness because you took vows or because it's better for the kids. Ignore them. It takes a huge amount of courage to stand up and demand a better life for yourself, your kids, and, yes, even your ex. Making a change is always harder than sticking with the status quo, so be proud of yourself. As for the kids: They deserve to have happy parents who can actually be present for them -- and they deserve the chance to see what a healthy relationship looks like so they have a shot at having one someday, too.

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