Pay attention to what you've been holding on to that reminds you of your ex: photos, clothes, furniture, books, and linens. Take some action to change the hold these objects have on you by giving them away, destroying them, or by packing them in boxes and putting them in storage.
Witness any resistance you may have to doing the above suggested rituals. If you notice significant resistance, you may not be ready to let go at this point. Forgive yourself and come back to it another time. If you experience mild resistance, continue to do the rituals anyway
Pamela D. Blair is a psychotherapist and spiritual counselor in Hawthorne, NY. While on the faculty at Wainwright House in Rye, NY, she coordinated the Institute for Spiritual Development and developed its pioneering divorce healing programs.
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