After all, the threat of divorce looms large for many of today's brides- and grooms-to-be. And according to a study by Jay D. Teachman (Childhood Living Arrangements and the Intergenerational Transmission of Divorce), parental divorce has a significant effect
Liz and Tyson recently got engaged during a trip to Pennsylvania's Pocono Mountains. Liz believes the time commitment involved with answering the questions in Don't You Dare Get Married was an invaluable investment in their long-term happiness as a couple. She found every chapter of the book worthwhile, especially the chapter on religion, which is a complicated matter in her relationship. "Tyson comes from a churchgoing family; his dad is actually a minister," Liz explains. "I come from a split-religion home where my mother is Catholic and my father is Jewish. As a result, we had very different views on how to incorporate religion into our children's lives and whether or not to baptize them. But the basis of a good marriage is two people who really care about each other and are willing to tough it out, even when they don't agree." She says that discussing each issue
But she also acknowledges that marriage is always a leap of faith to some degree. Dr. Shoshanna agrees: "Even if the person is perfect for you when you wed, change is inevitable. Each will grow, possibly in different ways. It is not what happens that counts as much as how they both handle it. A good relationship involves attention, quality time, communication and play. When both are on the same page in this area, that is the best way to 'divorce proof' a marriage."