"All of us have the same fantasy, which is that the first person we'll meet will be it," says Judith Sills, Ph.D. psychologist and author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted. But there are so many profiles to read, messages to send and people to meet, that finding Mr. Right usually requires time, patience and perseverance. To take the pressure off, Sills suggests treating online dating like a crash course in meeting new people and putting yourself out there on a new social scene. The first emails or calls might feel strange, but they'll get easier. "The sheer volume of people you'll talk to will give you lots of opportunities to practice," she says.