Scan the room and talk to the people you know first, suggests Wygant. “Walk in, look around, make it look like you're meeting someone. The minute you see the first person you recognize, give him or her a big hug and start to talk. You’ll become more relaxed and feel less self-conscious so you can start to mingle.” Koehler advises speaking first to women or men that you’re not interested in, then “working your way up” to the guys who make your knees go weak. “But remember to only expect an enjoyable conversation, nothing else,” she adds.