When you start searching for a nanny, your qualification list is endless. Sure, your goal is to find the perfect person -- but what if the person you find is too perfect? More importantly, what if she's better than you?
The relationship between nanny and mother is often precarious. You knowingly hire someone to be your child's caretaker, teacher, soother and playmate, yet you may come to resent the inevitable bond that she forms with your child. After a few episodes of Access Hollywood, you may even fear that she'll run away with your husband.
When I hire a housekeeper, I don't secretly hope that I am a better cleaner than she is. Nor do I feel competitive when it comes to the lawn guy, the exterminator, the painter or anyone else that helps around my house. I have no guilt about letting someone else prune the hedges, prime the walls, or scrub the toilets.
When I had my son, I was living in New York City and starting a company. Finding a nanny was a necessity and finding the right one was nearly impossible. I struggled with referrals and agencies that overcharged, waiting for my ideal to fly in on an umbrella. I had just about given up, when I met a nanny in my building who was looking for work. She was carrying an umbrella, so I took it as a sign. Maybe it was just a sign that rain was coming -- but it was a sign nonetheless.
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