Does he just want my body?

ON Jan 1, 1999 at 12:00PM

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Dear Sherry:

How do I know if my boyfriend of four months is with me mainly for the sex?

Lynn

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Dear Lynn:

Ah, let me count the ways to tell whether he's in it for lust or for love.

First, does he take you out on the town or just into bed? A man who truly cares about a woman wants to court her, to share special experiences that don't just end with post-coital cigarettes. A man who truly cares about a woman is interested in hearing about her day, and will run over with chicken soup and cough drops when she has a cold instead of staying away because he "can't afford to get sick." And a man who truly cares about a woman wants to meet the people in her life, and to have her meet the people in his.

Lastly, if he agrees to escort you to a family wedding, you know he's yours in more than body!

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