'Don Jon' Star Scarlett Johansson: I Can't Live Up to Your Expectations

In this exclusive interview, the actress talks to iVillage about the absurd standards that come along with being a Hollywood star -- and that one time her ex's mom was shocked to discover she is a "real person"!

Scarlett Johansson is a Hollywood A-lister idealized as the embodiment of beauty, talent and success. Looking at the actress, we’ve been trained to think: I want what she has.

But that's setting a ridiculously high bar for ourselves, right? Well, the actress agrees -- Scarlett Johansson, The Real-Life Person isn't as magically perfect as Scarlett Johansson, Movie Star. She even admits that she often feels held to an impossible standard. "It's kind of placed on you -- that you are this unattainable object," the actress tells iVillage exclusively.

That's a major theme in Johansson's new film, the smart romantic comedy Don Jon. Written and directed by her co-star, Joseph Gordon-Levitt, the film questions the role media and pop culture play in shaping our ideas of perfection -- and our ideals of "perfect love" in particular. Gordon-Levitt's character Jon has a skewed idea of women, thanks to his addiction to porn. Johansson's Barbara thinks her man should be her knight in shining armor because she watches too many rom-coms. Neither can live up to the other's impossible expectations.

Of course, no one is infallible -- not even the celebrities who appear to us as so god-like. Turns out, not even Johansson can compete with your ScarJo fantasies, something she learned first-hand.

"I remember an ex-boyfriend of mine, I was meeting his mother for the first time," Johansson tells us. "And right when I said, 'Oh, hi -- nice to meet you, she said, 'Wow, you're a real person!'"

The actress was caught off-guard, to say the least. "I thought that was so, well, strange," she says. "But it was interesting. The more I thought about it, the more I thought, man -- obviously she would have that feeling. It's a natural thing. She sees me in this golden light, but here I am and here we are connecting with each other."

As Don Jon explores fantasy versus reality, one lesson becomes clear: You can't buy into the hype. Johansson says that's the only way to hold onto anything real -- especially in Hollywood.

"You just have to let [celebrity culture] not put pressure on you," she says. "You have to not believe that yourself, and that keeps you grounded."

Don Jon opens Sept. 27 in theaters nationwide. 

Amber Ray is the Deputy Entertainment Editor at iVillage. Find her on Google+ and Twitter.

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