McGregor’s advice: “Tell her you appreciate all she is contributing (money and time) and ask her where you could help the most. Offer to pay for some extras that might not be in the initial wedding plan.” Denise explains that taking initiative here and showing your mother you appreciate her contributions is sure to change her attitude.
If all else fails, iVillage’s Wedding Women add: “Invite all contributors to create a written wish list of how they'd like to see your wedding plans unfold. Have them prioritize their list. Be upfront in saying that you'll take everyone's feelings into consideration, but that final decisions are up to you and your groom.”
Head off trouble before it starts
We all know our mothers love us and want the best for us on our special day. The best way to put an end to problems with Mom is to avoid them in the first place. And that means setting the tone for good communication. McGregor offers these 11 encouraging strategies for dealing with your mother while planning your wedding. Keep these tips in mind while planning your wedding and turn a tense experience into a pleasurable process for all!
1. Keep it in perspective. Your wedding, no matter how special, is one day out of your life. Your relationship with your mother goes on well after your wedding.
2. Set the pace of the planning to suit your schedule. It's easy to get caught up in wedding frenzy and skip meals, workouts, rest and relaxation. Make sure you have plenty of breaks to keep you calm and energized.