The Dos and Don'ts of Dirty Talk

Tracey Cox walks you through the process

”He watches porn all the time and swears and carries on with his friends, why wouldn't he like talking dirty? What's going on?”

The men who tend to react negatively are usually traditional, conservative men, brought up in a household where sex was dirty and good girls definitely didn't talk dirty. But even “normal” men sometimes find it difficult to speak “badly” to their girlfriend or hear very vulgar things coming out of her mouth. It seems disrespectful—which is, of course, why talking dirty works: It makes us feel sexually uncomfortable and sometimes this is a good thing!

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Part of the turn-on of talking dirty is that most women aren't explicit about sex the rest of the time. If you're the type who swears like a sailor during lunch with the Parents and Teacher's Association, it's probably not going to surprise him particularly if you continue doing it in bed. But for girls who play it pure and virginal in public, saving your wild inner-temptress for behind closed doors can spice up a so-so sex life instantly.

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