The Dos and Don'ts of Dirty Talk

Tracey Cox walks you through the process

  • Don't worry if it sounds cheesy. All dirty talk is cheesy!
  • Plagiarize. If you're having phone sex, it's perfectly acceptable to read out sections from a naughty mag or erotic book pretending it's your fantasy.
  • If he starts saying things you don't like, tell him. Don't accuse or lecture if he uses words or scenarios you find a bit offensive, just say, “Oh, I don't like that word. But I loved it when you said X. Can you go back to that? I was really loving it.” Swear words are optional. Some men find it incredibly erotic if you use them, especially if you don't usually swear. But you can still talk up a sexual storm without them.
  • Want him to be more graphic? Drop in the odd “bad” word and see how he reacts. If he hears you use them, he'll get the green light to do the same.

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