I remember reading a book when I was a teenager about a single woman who had adopted two Chinese daughters. At that time, I thought that maybe I would eventually adopt from China. As the years passed, I thought more about it, that if I reached 30 without having found that someone special, I might look into adopting.
The time seemed right in January 1998. All of a sudden, I felt that I should look into how much adoption would cost. I searched the Web on adopting from China. The costs were much higher than I had expected. I thought that there was no way I could come up with that much money, but the idea grew.
I live with my brother, so I felt that if he would support me, then adoption might be possible. I was a little scared of his saying no, but he supported me in a big way! The next step was to present my idea to my parents. We are a very close-knit family; I wanted them to play a major role in my adoption process.
On the evening of January 13, 1998 -- my 32nd birthday -- I told my parents that I wanted to adopt a child. My dad was not surprised, but my mom was in shock. She just never suspected that I had been thinking this way.
My dad suggested that I talk to a family lawyer friend, who told me to contact the county adoption program and get fingerprints started for a home study.
I decided that I had a better chance of adopting as a single mom by going international rather than domestic. I contacted five agencies, looked at all the different programs and was drawn to China, which charged the lowest fees. I had pretty much decided on China, when I received a package from Dillon International. Its portfolio indicated that the India program had the lower fees by a few thousand dollars. Plus, adoptive parents were allowed to escort their children home. My parents encouraged me take into consideration that the Indian children look very much like the Mexican children here in Tucson. So within days, I switched to Dillon's India program.