Regardless of the situation, children often worry about what is going on in their lives, and they often see divorce as something very traumatic. One of the most important things to a child in a divorce situation is their own security. They are not concerned for their parents’ happiness. The younger the child is the more of a one-way street they are traveling.
Children sometime make comments like these:
- What if they both leave me?
- What is it that I did wrong?
- It must have been me who caused the divorce
- Now what's going to happen to me?
Many children react in different ways with the onset of divorce. Some will be extremely sad and may show signs of depression, and even sleeplessness. Children's anxiety levels go up as they feel they are going to be abandoned or rejected by one or even both parents. Some divorce situations may make the child feel loneliness. This can be due to a long absence of one of the parents.
No matter what the case, the child will be affected in some way by a divorce. This change will probably affect them for the rest of their lives. Some children may become psychologically scarred from the experience, and still other children may not be affected emotionally at all. Much of it does depend on how the parents handle the situation. It is better for the child to grow up in an environment that is conflict free. If children are exposed to a family environment that is in constant conflict, the child/children will most likely be more psychologically scarred than if they grew up in a conflict free divorce environment.